I don’t usually post to this blog from e-mails I have received. Today is an exception. The e-mail is from Ragnar Tómas Hallgrimsson, a journalist writing for The Iceland Review. In it, he writes:
The end of the year is a time to reflect: to weigh what went well over the past 12 months – and what went poorly, and to revise one’s rules for life. In the spirit of the season, here is an updated list of my principles. (In case you need ideas.)
What are your principles?
1 Begin each day with the thought: “What if this was the last time …?”
A cliché to be sure, but the additional caveat from thinker Sam Harris: “because one day it will be,” adds a measure of urgency. What if this really was your final ride down the stream of consciousness (with the people whom you love most?) How would you spend it?
2 You can work on a problem – but you cannot worry about it.
Worrying is the most useless “implement” in the toolbox of man. When confronted with a difficult problem, break it down into small, manageable steps – and then schedule those steps for tomorrow.
3 Every misfortune must be conceived of as an opportunity.
Arguably the hardest principle to follow. How in the world is one supposed to reframe an unexpected traffic jam as a brilliantly disguised opportunity?
4 Keep a record of your days and thoughts with a diary.
Even the mind, with all its stubborn complacency, will be forced to reckon with its mistakes and bad habits when confronted with them daily in written form.
5 If something upsets you, set a stopwatch for 24 hours.
Negative thoughts are like trains: once they start rolling, they’re harder and harder to stop – even if they have no basis in reality. One becomes irritated by a person, starts justifying that irritation, and keeps layering on arguments. If one makes the mistake of voicing these thoughts while the narrative train is at full speed, one usually regrets it.
6 Exercise every day, or, at least every other day.
Good physical health provides a solid foundation for good mental health. Negative emotions are like unfaltering assassins – but a moving target is hard to hit.
7 Put your stamp on all things.
People only remember the things you did YOUR way.
8 Music, every day.
Nothing teases out the important emotions like music, which is stoicism’s twin sibling. Stoicism mitigates and reframes difficult but unwanted emotions; music strengthens desired but muted emotions.
9 Be slow to anger, quick to forgive.
Being upset with people who behave irrationally or inconsiderately is futile. Their behaviour harms them most of all. If people were capable of better behaviour, they’d act better.
10 Be honest, speak plainly, and, for God’s sake – avoid emojis.
Emojis are the hieroglyphics of a civilisation in decline.
11 Restore balance to that which you offset.
Strive to leave the world in a better place than you found it. No matter which corner of the world you currently occupy.
12 There is but one law: be better than you were yesterday.
In the immortal words of Barack Obama: “Better is good,” and you can’t judge better without measurement (“if you can’t measure it, you can’t improve it”). Work hard.
13 Work is a means of coping – nothing more.
Life’s about coexisting with problems: doing just enough each day to keep them at bay. The game is lost when you start dwelling on problems, letting them distract you from the grandeur of life. (An American banker famously didn’t take a single day off from work, only to lose everything in the 1873 financial crash. A few days off wouldn’t have prevented the crash – but they might have changed his life.
The above principles make a hell of a lot more sense than most New Years’ resolutions. By the way, if you are ever interested in visiting Iceland, I highly recommend The Iceland Review. It is an attractive quarterly magazine with outstanding articles and photography, and, yes, it is written in English.
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